25
Jul
2014

TGIF

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TGIF 25.07.14

  • EAT: I have been making some really good smoothies with avocado latly, but this... well this is another level of awesomeness
  • DRINK: I actually have all the ingredients for this cocktail in my home right now!
  • WATCH: i do not always watch crappy stuff :-) i cannot express how breathtaking the first season of Cosmos: A Spacetime Odyssey is! You just HAVE TO watch it!

 

Have a nice weekend!

x.o.

23
Jul
2014

Weekend fun in the sun

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Last saturday was so, so, sooo hot! We were melting! And we had dog school and a birthday party! Honestly, i did not think i would survive the heat, luckily dog shool didn't start until 4:30 and the birthday party was just afterwards. It still was awfully hot, but at least there was some hope that the sun would eventually set. So, we packed our super awesome picknick backpack full with food and limonades and cocktails and made our way to the Isar.

Isar 1 Isar 2 Baby Lola 1

fun with friends with lolz Baby Lola 2

 We had a great time! Thanks Lilli for the invitation!

In other news: Last week i got an invitation to write a guest post for Victoria's site The Jewish Lady (if you still haven't checked out her site... what are you waiting for?). Well, she asked me to write a post about my experiences or thoughts about cross-cultutral marriage and i have to say it was the hardest thing i had to do in a long time! Writing for somebody else's site definitely challenges you to be better and to step up your game! Specially since it's the first time i've done something like this, but it was a fun experience and i hope she liked it and oh yes: here's the link ;-)

Have a nice wednesday!

x.o.

18
Jul
2014

TGIF

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TGIF 18.07.14

  • EAT: i really need to buy popsicle molds to try these out
  • DRINK: it's so hot! give me some watermelon! better yet, give me this
  • WATCH: as a mexican i'm appalled and at the same time addicted to the Tequila Sisters

 

Enjoy your friday!

x.o.

17
Jul
2014

Of mourning and new beginnings

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I procrastinated about 1 hour on the internet before deciding it was time to start writing this post. Like i already told you, it's not always easy to keep things real, mostly because life is not always happiness and rainbows and super cool days with super cool people.

After all the trips and all the visits, i had to slow down a little bit and realize that i had been stealing time wherever i could to not deal with stuff. Don't worry this is not a super depressive post, i'm already past that point, but it is a post about feelings and dealing with those feelings and accepting things, mourning the losses and letting go.

This past two months have been hard. It's not always easy to accept the things that happen. But what i noticed is, that it actually wouldn't be that hard if we did not have a predefined mind or idea of what we, or others, think our lives should be like.

When i first talked with my doctor about IVF in february, he told me that it might not be easy to accept, that many women cannot deal with the fact that their child is going to be conceived outside of their bodies. At that time, my thought was: what? why should they have a hard time accepting that? why would it bother them? why should it bother them?

Well, now i'm wiser. It does bother you. And i do believe it's because of whatever input or information we get from our surroundings. Most of us women, grow up with this romantic idea about how getting pregnant should be. Especially in my case, i had this highly idealized vision of conception, of two people turning into one new being send from God. And the fact that it doesn't always work like that crushed me. I felt like i failed! as if the fact that i don't have falopian tubes anymore makes me less a woman. 

And it's wrong! it's wrong to feel like a failure just because you're different! It's wrong to feel guilty of something you obviously didn't have any control of! It's wrong to keep this taboo around science! I say this because i've had people telling me i shouldn't tell others about us having a baby through IVF. Why? It's just another way to the same outcome. God will still bless us with a kid! It is still the same miracle of conception, it just needs a little extra help.

I had to mourn the loss of something i thought i had, the fact that i will never have children on my own (meaning without outside help, like IVF), in order to let it go. With this post i'm letting it go! I'm concentrating on enjoying the time with my husband, the walks with my dog, having time for myself...

Sometimes you just have to see the door that opened instead of keeping staring at the one that closed, because life is good! Life is really good! 

Last, but not least, my advice for dealing with stuff you never thought you would be dealing with: 

  • Give yourself time to mourn! It's a natural process! There's nothing wrong in feeling down for a while (but get back up!)
  • Keep the people you love and love you back very close! You are not alone!
  • If you think you need to talk to an expert: get help! There is no shame in getting help.
  • Don't set into roles or ideals just because you grew up with them: keep an open mind!
  • And always, always remember the wise words of Phil Dunphy:

Phil Dunphy Lemons Quote

x.o.

16
Jul
2014

Movie Review: RoboCop

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Do we really need remakes of every single movie ever made? Why can't Hollywood let the past be? I understand that they want to reach the next generations or that they're just out of ideas, but why can't they do it properly then?

Didn't they learn anything from remaking Total Recall? They turned a cool Schwarzenegger movie into yet another crappy Colin Farrell one... Poor Paul Verhoeven! They just keep trashing his genious.

If you have not seen the original RoboCop, then what are you waiting for? It's bloody and violent and does not have a very annoying love-side plot. 80's at it's finest ;-)

The only good thing about this version is Samuel L. Jackson!

 

I just hope Hollywood doesn't decide that they NEED to remake Starship Troopers... that would just kill me.

x.o.

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